Detach the Emotion from the Game

Coaching my U8 boys team has really taken me to a new level as a coach.  It has taught me how to detach myself from the boys and the game, and solely focus on the development….

With my girls it has always been different…I have been emotionally wrapped into them which has secretly wanted me to see them successful…at least successful in terms  what them and their parents perceive to be successful which is winning…

I have now detached emotion from my girls and it has been quite enlightening…

One of the teams we played against this weekend had a coach that I didn’t particularly care for…not because he was a bad guy, but because both of us had gotten caught up in one of the previous games and didn’t act as we should of…

Yesterday’s game was completely the opposite…we were chatting during the game and actually hugged and apologized for the last meeting…it was very reassuring and really cemented my theory that this soccer stuff can’t be about us…it is about our little one’s…

It wasn’t until I detached the emotion that I could really take a full step back and enjoy the body of work…the game yesterday was a battle against two of the top U9 girls teams in Southern California…we both sat back and just enjoyed two teams going at each other and playing beautiful passing soccer…the first stages of true possession soccer…

Parents and coaches, the hardest thing for us to do is detach that emotion…that emotion carries with it a burden that will wear you and your children and players down…the day you are able to drop that burden, is the day you will truly start to enjoy this venture…

I know because I now have a rejuvenated love for coaching that is greater than anything I have ever known….

Give me your thoughts on this…I look forward to conversing with you….

Coach Randle

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